Proverbs 31 Woman
Updated: Jun 20, 2020
I am hoping that this entry may open up pathways of conversation. My prior posts have painted a picture of me as an independent female, seeking out opportunities for growth while pursuing my hobbies, passion for medicine, and my faith. To some, this portrayal of an independent, goal oriented, ambitious female may reflect a lack of vulnerability or that perhaps I am set in my ways and I do not need to rely on anyone for support. This erroneous assumption could not be further from the truth. Unfortunately, I have many times been told that my career and my ambitions push people away. Somehow, unbeknownst to me, my achievements have caused me to become disconnected to others so as not to be relatable to them in any way. Perhaps some of my professional female friends may relate. My career has, in some individuals' perspectives, defined who I am as an individual. Being a physician automatically translates to heightened confidence, assertiveness, and directness, qualities which may subconsciously dissuade men and women from pursuing a relationship or friendship, respectively, with me. And yet, I reflect on what it means to be a Proverbs 31 woman; a woman who is industrious, shrewd, wise, a benefactor, strong, charitable, and honorable. Can't a woman be confident yet meek, strong yet vulnerable, industrious yet able to also prioritize the important people and aspects of her life? Can't she express her opinions and have ambitions while also being complacent (in the right situations) and not prone to disagreements or disrespecting others' viewpoints? My career does not define who I am as a person. For me, it is a way to serve the Lord - what a more humbling position to be in than that of a healer? And, while it is my passion and my calling, my career is one aspect of my life. There are so many facets to my individuality and character that will only be revealed once an opportunity to connect with another arises. Assumptions (especially when based on subjectivity alone) and generalizations about any individual based on exterior factors only limit our abilities to form bonds and connections with others. Our judgements limit our ability for fellowship. I hope this serves as a reminder to all, myself included.